What is Love?

New year and of course the first thing I want to talk about is #Love. It’s been awhile since my last post and there’s a reason for that. But before that here’s some backstory…

Backstory

I’ve been in the dating world for awhile now, 3+ years. Being an Indian-born, American-raised individual doesn’t make it easier. In fact, it adds a whole another level of complexitiy on top that it would drive an individual insane. Most relationships should be, in my opinion, just getting to know someone and enjoying each other’s companionship and just letting it naturally flow from there. But when it comes to Indians. Family tend to be alot more picky. They don’t believe in dating and assume every girl that your with or talking too is going to be your future wife. Needless to say that usually not the case, and to not add that external pressure to your relationship, we tend to hide the fact that we are dating till we know for sure its going to work out.

Somewhat Present Time

So like I said before I’ve been dating for 3+ year and in those years. I’ve used numerous different dating apps, gone on plenty of dates and even had few potentials. But at the end… none of them really clicked, worked out or just faded away… like an ember in the cold wind. So at the beginning of the year I made a New Year’s resolution. I would delete all my profiles and just spend this year doing the things I love to do and hopefully meet someone naturally. Well techincally I made the resolution before the New Year and would act on it on the 1st.

But before that day came. I had a match on the 30th. Literally the day after I launched this blog, there was a match and potential partner that had appeared to me. Of course, at this time, with my jaded self, I was like great another girl I have to small talk and attempt to see if we can meet in person and see if there’s any potential. Enter witty banter and conversation and within few hours of texting. I could see a dim light at the end of the tunnel.

This woman, for continuity sakes lets call her K, just made me want to take a chance and a chance I did take. Not just me but her as well. We met in not the most traditional formats but I would do it again hands down. I haven’t felt so hopefully and giddy about a woman in a long time. Now we’re just trying to get to know each other and see if there could be something here. So what’s the point of all this.

Sometimes in the world of dating, relationships and dates seem to be fleeting. People change partners like they do their wardrobe, seasonal. I just wanted you to know. That’s not how it should be. When you meet someone you like and want to be with, you should want to be able to be better for yourself and them. You should want to work on your relationship with them. You should want to make things work. Not drop it, like its hot, the minute something gets tough. That’s the point I wanted to make. I’ll keep you informed in my insights and how this relationship grows or fades as time goes by and what I’ve learned and how I’ve grown.

See you in my next post!!!